Monday, August 25, 2008

I'm Popular

Yesterday I did photography for my bike club group, the one that accepts me as Louise and Lou. As I was getting my camera there was an older couple parked next to me and the gentleman saw my camera and commented about it and asked if I was a photographer, my answer was I make a better model, I'm not a Kodak moment as Lou, they laughed. I said well you know a picture is worth a 1000 words, I got one of my business cards out (now remember, these people are old, 75+ and we're in a county park about 30 miles from my home area) she looked at the picture on the front and then my name on the back and threw her arms up and said "my best friend sees you in Somers Point and always tells me how nice you are, I can't believe I met you as you, wait till I tell her" she raved about me, her husband was just as impressed. I went back to Millie (my wife) who was sitting at the picnic bench and told her the in counter I just had, she rolled her eye's before I could finish saying you didn't show your picture, and after I finished the story she was as surprised as I was.

And people wonder why I love to Cross Dress and share it.

Saturday night 08 23 08

Just a quick update. I went with my wife (Millie) to the Crab Trap Saturday night, it's usually a different group of people than on Friday nights. I like walking and working the bar so to speak, if I catch some one's eye it gives me a chance to introduce myself.

I was surprised at how many people feel comfortable with me, anyway, a woman comes up to me and asks if I graduated Atlantic High at a curtain year, I said yes, we were classmates. What's interesting is this person (very nice BTW) never talked to me in school, maybe I should have been Louise when in High School.

Sunday, August 17, 2008

I intimidated a police Captian

Friday nights I go out to a couple local "traditional" lounges as Louise. I must meet or be introduced to 50 new people a night, I lose tract and rarely remember a name or profession.

This past Friday I was in Somers Point at an upscale restaurant that has a nice dance band. I was "working the bar" just to talk, when a person who has met me before said, let me introduce you to some friends of mine. It was a gentleman with his wife and sister in law, we talked for a few minuets and finally he told me that they had seen me for a couple years at different lounges and were always afraid to talk with me. It turned out that he was a just retired police Captain from the Camden Police department, when I last checked, I think Camden was one of the top ten city's in the nation for the higest crime rate, I didn't think I was that scary, maybe I better check my mirror again?

Anyway, we talked a couple hours and he wants me to arm wrestle a friend of his because his friend embarrasses him where ever he goes because he challenges everyone to arm wrestle, I don't think I'm that tough, but it would be a hoot if I did beat this person, being a mature, 5'3 tall guy in a dress.

I intemidated a police Captian

I intimidated a police Captain

Follow up A first,I did it

Well, the young person called me again and begged me to please bail him out, apparently all the "friends" and choices he has made in his adult life have been the wrong one's. I had tried to express to him when we first met that it would be beneficial that he take a different path and that the people he had aligned himself with were not looking out for his benefit.

My thoughts again were, 300.00 bucks were not going to change my lifestyle, but could be enough to destroy him.

I called to confirm that the 1000.00 dollar judgement had been removed and was told that someone had "taken care of it" and the balance was 30.00 dollars. You can't call into these facility's so I decided to drive out with 300.00 as I was first told in case the 30 was a mistake. As I was on my way, the person called me and I explained the balance, he said it was wrong, I talked with him as I went into the facility and confirmed on the phone while talking with the receptionist, she would not clarify how the difference became so little, but I did confirm he was going to be released that night.

I had to leave, there's about a 2-3 hour processing period and it was already 7 PM, I asked about transportation for him and she said he will get a bus ticket. The next day he text ed me a message thanking me. I do have to talk with this kid and see if I can somehow impact to how important it is for him to return to possibly a trade school like the culinary institute we have here and focus on getting a job.

My whole take on this, is that it may have all been prevented if the police are allowed to show some discretion and sympathy for certain situations, I don't know the real story here, but I can see lots of contributory negligence on all sides especially from the powers to be.

(1) why would a person be charged with a crime if they are trying to prevent one.
(2) how can a 1300.00 bail amount be dropped to 30.00 dollars, if that was all the judgement
was the crime had to be very minor, why lock someone up for 2 days.
(3) I did ask if that was a 10% amount that is usually posted but was told that was the TOTAL amount.
(4) I spoke with a social worker and asked if she would at least pass my phone number to him so I could explain what had happened and that I did try to help him out the day before, but it was never delivered.
(5) Something is broke here, I now really have major concerns that the general public is at the mercy of a policed state and little by little due to creeping controls we are losing all of our liberty's as we had known them. The police are afraid to error on the side of rational and tend to over react to many situations.

I have absolutely no knowledge of law, but unless you're financially capable to afford the best, and let me tell you, you will pay through the nose for it, you are going to be intimidated beyond belief and will lose everything you hold dear including your liberty.

Thursday, August 14, 2008

A first

I was contacted by a young man, 21 at the time, who wanted help with cross dressing about a year and a half ago. Well we're all curious about other CD's so I said I'll meet you and if I feel I can help I will and introduce you to my wife who does the makeup.

He seemed to be a nice kid, but I was very afraid of him, I don't want to sound judgemental but look we all are, he looked what is termed a "wigger" (I think it's spelled), he wore the baggy pants under his butt and talked in the speak they use, he also have a very large tattoo that covered about 30-40% of one arm.

Well I helped him and took some pictures and then took him home. I blocked my SN from him, but he had my phone number (my mistake) again my wife has met him so it's not like we were doing anything inappropriate. I got a call today from the Atlantic County correction facility, I heard the message and hung up twice, but the third time I finally answered. It was him. He was locked up for taking his GF's purse so she wouldn't drive drunk, she pressed charges. He asked if I would post 300 bail, I said I would need to think about it. I called my wife and explained the situation and thought to myself, for a lousy 300 bucks this kids life could be destroyed in a place like that, he's not very strong, very thin and had a very bad car accident which almost cut his legs off, so he has very little strength in them. I began to weep and said I want to save his life.

I drove out to the prison and told them I would post his bail, the receptionist looked up the record and said it was 1285.00, I said he told me 300, she said yes, for this one, but he jumped bail on another one and owes 1000.00, well I wasn't prepared.

After thinking about this I asked myself, why would the cops lock him up if they talked with his GF and she was noticeably drunk, something else is going on here.

I have no idea what to do, anyone who knows me knows even though I have my weak moments I am very sensitive towards others needs, but I don't know what to do for this poor lost soul. I'll call a social worker tomorrow to get some idea, but I think he needs to get his parents involved. I mentioned that to him originally and he told me his mother and step father were in the Pocono's.

Any advise would be welcome.

Life's a Parodox

A month ago I was invited to a party on our block. The woman's mother about my age notice my nails and mode of dress, I wear women's clothes because I like them and because of my small stature fit me better. I saw her scanning me up and down, so I mentioned I notice she noticed. I asked if she would be offended if I explained my look and she said, I'm from Brooklyn and I tech there too, I've seen it all and I understand. So, being that we were sitting at the adult table (no kids nearby) I showed her my business card which as a somewhat PG type picture on it, but again it was the Adult table. She asked me to show her other (300 ld) daughter. As soon as I did and saw her expression I realize I was used as a scapegoat to embarrass the daughter. The mother was a "bitch" and wanted to show the daughter even a guy in a dress was more attractive than her.

The next day, my wife was talking with the lady (sister) that had the party and she told my wife it was inappropriate for me to show the picture at a party where kids were. No kids ever were withing 50 feet of the Adult table and I'm not obtuse enough to know better than ever expose kids to something I feel is inappropriate, I won't even go into a men's public restroom when I'm dressed on the Parkway traveling, I ask to be escorted into the lady's room so people will be aware I'm there and I'm not looking to invade their space.

The more interesting part of this story it, our other neighbor who was very accepting of me till this incident has started to work on my wife to get me to abandon or closet my other persona. She is always full of advice and overflows with her overwhelming knowledge from her 3 marriages and this one is on very shaky ground also to her ex Green Bret Captain who claims to have "flash backs" of battles, when he never stepped foot off American soil, WTF, I do something I'm open about and people seem to like and people who have all this F*cking baggage and lie are giving me advise. I have some advise for them, get your lives together before you try to give advise to others.

Monday, August 04, 2008

An observation

A few months ago I went to a party where some children were. I dress somewhat andogenously and have women's nails. The mother who I find out later is an art instructor from Brooklyn and said she has meet many TG's noticed my direction(so to speak). I had to show (or wanted to show her what I looked like) and asked if she would be offended, that's when she told me her background and said it was fine. She insisted I show my picture to her obese daughter, about (300 lbs) who was married to some 300 lb guy who sat alone with tattoo's all over his body and looked as if wanted to kill everyone there, he was a nasty person. The next day, the sister of the big people told my wife her "fat" sister called her to complain that it was inappropriate to show my picture at a kids party, well I only showed it to the mother and sister.


My observation was, the mother wanted to embarrass her daughter by showing her that even a guy in a dress looked better than her and that it was done as a message, I just happened to be the messenger and you remember the old saying "kill the messenger"


The next part of this story is my wife's closet friend who used to support me now is causing an issue about my being myself, e got into a very heated discussion and I told her, I think outside the box, I and many other Cd's/TG's are non conformists, we like to do what we want and will never try to conform to traditional society. Why is it conformists are so unhappy and Gay's or Cd's tend to know how to make themselves happy but ain't allowed to be because we don't want to conform to people who put on a false facade.


To go further, yesterday, my wife and family went to another BD party with a ton of kids. One lady, fairly attractive about mid 40's was waring a pair of form fitting jeans with a good size hole right near the crack of her butt, I mean you talk about inappropriate dress at a children's party, that was inexcusable, but no one said a thing.

07 28 08 A very busy week


Friday, the 25 th, I was invited to a house/pool party and went as Louise with my wife Millie. The group are mostly work associates from the local hospital (I am only an acquaintance) of the home owner.


I know most of the people from going to the local lounges, and have found they are very accepting of Louise. One lady who met me for the first time brought of a woman (40 y/o) to introduce her to me, she was reasonably attractive and looked something like Liz Taylor after she got heavy. The woman looked at me like a deer caught in headlights, I said to her "don't be afraid, I'm a lesbian" the woman grabbed me and hugged me and said "so am I"( in jest I'm sure, she was all over me for the rest of the night, she said I had met her mother before she recently passed away and her mother was very attracted towards me also. The next day she called me and left a long phone message about how much fun she had.


Saturday, I was supposed to go to my friends, Heather, birthday party in Asbury Park. I had ridden my bike in the morning and was cut off by a car and went down on my right hand, it felt like it was going to be OK but I had broken 2 nails. I came home cleaned up and got dressed, went to my wife's store as Louise but noticed a nail salon across the street, so I went in to have the nails repaired. As I was sitting there I noticed a lady from the aerobics class I go to, I had shown her my pictures about a month before but she seemed to either be ignoring me or not recognizing me. After my nails dried I went over to the pedicure chair she was in and said hello, she looked with an inquisitive expression and finally said "is that Lou". She went nuts, she couldn't stop hugging me, made me step back so she could get a better look and wanted her picture with me. She showed the picture to the class a couple days later when I gave it to her.




My hand began to hurt and swell up so I felt I would have difficulty driving about 160 miles round trip to my friends (Heather) birthday, so I called and begged off.


Sunday. Millie and I were invited to a birthday party for an older lady who has cancer on her nose and she will need to have her nose removed. Last year they asked me to be Louise for the party but I went as Lou this time. I had taken a lot of pictures last year and so did other people, they were reviewing the pictures on a PC and as I was talking to a young girl about 20 I pointed to my picture as it came across and said "that's me", she said OMG, we've been looking for you, meaning her girl friend, turns out her GF's father is also a CD and is lonely and the daughter has to go out with him. She contacted the other people and I made arrangements to meet the father (Sheila), seemed to be a nice person, but he probably was very close friends with "Bud Wiser" if you get the drift, also, when I hear people in their 60's who really need to work on their appearance start to tell me they're considering SRS or GRS I tend to want to get away as fast as possible. I hate to sound prejudice, but being in the life as long as I have , I've found that usually anyone who does that has a hard time becoming happy, I'm sure they're exceptions, but it's just not my interest, I wished him the best, told him where he may find other Cd's or places he will be comfortable in and left.
Wednesday. I like to go to the Salvation Army thrift shop after my aerobics class. I was browsing the lingerie section where a woman was, I picked up a nice body briefer and the lady asked if that was my size. I said I guess you don't know me, so I pulled out one for my business cards with the picture of Louise on it. She said are you Millie's husband, yes I said, she said her and my wife used to do plays together. Turns out she sells on EBay and has a very large amount of Cd's who buy off of her, she goes by "Miss*Hortense", now what are the chances of meeting someone like that?