Sunday, June 21, 2009

Saturday night 06 20 09

The lady singer of the band who knows me asked me to come to the lounge they were playing at and asked if I would be kind enough to contact some other people. I mentioned to her I was driving by one couples house and would knock on their door, but they weren't home, so I wrote a note and left that and my card in their door jamb.

Last night when she was thanking everyone for coming out, before going on break she said, I especially what to thank Louise for stuffing notes in peoples door jambs, and her husband said "now Louise will be known as the stalker" I just can't win.

I left there about 10 PM and made another stop for a few minuets at another lounge because another girl who sings was supposed to be there, but she wasn't, so I left and went to a place in Margate. I rarely sit, but I had been on my feet for a while and needed to rest them, A couple came in close and stood by me, the woman was wearing what would be considered "Fetish" style boots with stiletto heels and tight fitting to the knee. I pretty much realised they were most likely open mined and I motioned with my eyes to her husband the boots. He came close to me and said he loved them on her. We started a general conversation and it really never got into what you would think when you meet others with a similar genre I only describe why a lot of males like to cross dress because they're female companions won't dress the way they like so they do it to satisfy their fantasy's (for the most part) they're are many other reasons.

One of the servers who knows me came by and said, look it's Charles Barkley, the basket ball player. Boy that guy is huge, he most have shoulders about 5 feet wide. I really wanted to have my picture with him and even figured how to get it, I was going to say, Mr Barkley, would you like your picture with me. But he was being swarmed by everyone and I just felt it would be rude to impose when he was trying to have an evening out.

Monday, June 15, 2009

My Son's Birthday & the photographer 06/14/09

Sunday 06/14/06 is my Son's Birthday, this was another milestone decade for him. He is also expecting another daughter besides the 3 1/2 year old he has now, I wished him years ago that he would get everything he deserved in life and it seems he will be (smile), of course I hope to it's all happiness and I intend to do all I can to help if need be.

For this special occasion, my wife and I went up to NNJ to spend most of the day with him and his family. After taking a number of pictures at his home, mostly of our grand daughter we headed for dinner to a Mexican place in Englewood, NJ. The area tends to be very exclusive and due to the beautiful weather there were many people sitting outside in cafe settings.

As we were to enter the restaurant I encountered a few gentleman where one mention that I had "A real camera", we commented back and forth about the attributes of what mine did compared to his point and shoot, when another gentleman walked up with a similar camera as mine and chimed in the conversation.

It's interesting how when we as humans tend to see something we have in common with someone else even if they are a stranger it allows some type of bonding aspect and we feel we're on common ground without any prejudice. The reason I mention this is that I was Lou on my son's birthday but many times I'm Louise because I always feel Lou is ignored or rejected and Louise has always tended to draw much more attention, but yesterday was an exception, at least I felt.

As myself and the gentleman, David, spoke he apparently mentioned something to allow me to share my other persona, it turned out that he is a very creative and published photographer and is doing a demonstration at a NYC alternative type club that he graciously invited me to attend the next Friday ( hope to attend).

After we ate dinner, I stepped outside to try to take some creative photo's of my grand daughter peeking out the door and noticed the same gentleman were all sitting together. So I started to talk again with David who mentioned his book and offered to show it to me, I wasn't aware of the quality or the fact that it was available for purchase. My family in the mean time had walked by me and I told them I'd only be a moment but when I start talking it goes on and on. They pulled up to the corner as I went to find them and because I was without any cash on me and felt a little embarrassed by the friendliness of David I wanted to buy his book, and asked my wife for the cash.

I bought David’s book and he autographed my copy to Lou and Louise, I now have to contact him so he can see my "Alter Ego" or other persona. My family was very impressed by the book also.

A night at the Red Neck Bar

Over the last few months, my wife, her friend and myself as Louise have been patronizing what I consider a "Red Neck" bar in Brigantine, my description of Red Neck bars is where everyone wears "wife beater" T shirts, drives a pickup truck and has a tool belt strapped on them, well it's not quite that demonstrative, but you get the idea, it AIN'T a place for girls like Louise.

As the night went on and the three of us sang a little Karaoke and had a few adult beverages I was taking some pictures of my wife singing. A young, very attractive lady came over to me and mentioned she had seen me on the Boardwalk during the Miss America Pageant and wanted to remark about how much she admired my courage for being so out. She was very complimentary and noticed everything about me including the way I carried myself with so much confidence. I think that is one of my key attributes to being accepted so well into all lifestyles.

As we were talking there was a man next to us who had seen me there before and offered me a drink, I tried to discourage him politely but he insisted, so he bought me a shot so we could do a toast, he also was very animate that he was totally "STRAIGHT", but after the toast he took my face in his hands and in front of his friends and this lady said "You are so beautiful", well maybe he was straight, but as I always quite myself (I turn gay men straight and Straight men gay".

Thursday, June 11, 2009

Atlantic City Press "Lady Luck"

I was contacted by the Atlantic City Press a few weeks ago and asked if I would be receptive to being a Co-Hostess for a new Website called "Lady Luck". Of course anyone especially a Cross Dresser would jump at the offer. I was some what concerned as to the venue though, even though I cross dress I like to present myself in a positive and not overly provocative image.

I asked what the dress code was and I was told "wild", I sent a couple pictures of what I considered formal and some what suggestive. The person, whom I never met said she loved the girdle, stockings and PVC jacket, I felt that would be a little over the top for an affair in a higher end hotel and for the Press where I suspected pictures would be taken so I opted for a more formal look. I made the right choice.

I would like to put Cross Dressing on a higher plane than just fetish or Drag Queen images, you can make an impression without compromising yourself.